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It’s been bothering me lately that so many people I know are in the middle of a messy marriage break-up. I only bring this up because it stuns me that when I talk with them, they have no idea what they’re going to do next. Normally, one of the spouses has left the marriage (moved out) and decided to pursue other interests leaving behind nothing but overdue mortgages, emotionally unattended children and bitterness and unanswered questions. What really bothers me is when I mention divorce, they just look at me and say “I don’t know.” SERIOUSLY??! I guess that means that since you couldn’t work things out in your marriage, you can just move on and try it with someone else. Call me old fashioned, but I think they call that … ADULTERY. If you’re through with something — finish it. Seriously, stop torturing your spouse if you’re done. Don’t post pictures of your new girlfriend or boyfriend on Facebook. Don’t start asking your friends to fix you up. It makes you look uneducated and ignorant of what God’s word says about marriage. Also, why would you want to jump into another relationship when your emotions are still very raw and invested in your marriage. That’s just downright unfair to someone who doesn’t deserve your mess.

I Corinthians 14:40 says “Let all things be done decently and in order.”

If you’re finished with your marriage, end it properly so you can move on. Deal with alimony, deal with child support, deal with paying bills and splitting property etc., etc. God will never bless the mess you’re currently living in. And shame on you if you never gave your marriage a chance. If you need healing, if you’re caught in an addiction, if you put your own interests above God, then you have no right running off with someone else.

It takes two to break and two to heal. GO HEAL YOUR MARRIAGE!


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